So, H has been with us for a month and a half now, and R and I have been waiting for the “other shoe to drop”. She is so sweet and, frankly, easy, that we were wondering when she would get out of her honeymoon phase and into the real H. After having been told that she had been defiant and verbally aggressive with her previous foster mother, I was particularly on the lookout for that.
I’m in shock today, because last night we saw more defiance and attitude than she has shown before, but it was SO EASY. R and I keep asking ourselves if this is really it. Is this really the aggressive, defiant behavior that we were told about? Because if so, that other foster parent is a pansy. Here’s how it went down.
Me: H, time for night medications.
H: No! *crosses her arms*
Me: No? I think yes. it’s time for meds.
H: No! I don’t want to. I hate meds.
Me: I’m sorry to hear that, but you have to take them.
H: No, I won’t. I don’t want them.
Me: If you don’t take your meds, the consequence will be that we will not go to the pool tomorrow. I would like you to make the right choice and take them.
H: I’m not taking them!
Me: Okay, well you’ve been told the consequences if that’s what you choose.
H: *stomps her foot like a little kid.* I don’t want them.
H: *pouts* Fine, I’ll take them.
And she did. Granted, she was defiant, and I can see how if I had reacted badly, things could have escalated. Really though, if this is the other shoe, H is shaping up to be our easiest kid yet.