Teenagers are so, so stupid. I love these stupid kids…but damn.
Less than 10 hours after T arrived for his birthday party (my baby is 14!!!) he and A2 got caught smoking. Because they brought it in the house. Because they are dumb idiots. A2 breaks my heart, because right now she is trying SO HARD to drive us away. That’s not conjecture either, she said straight out that she is trying to drive us away. She’s currently pissed at her lack of success.
I’m so glad that she has the opportunity to be pissed about it. We were talking to her about the dumb idiot incident and she said “You should just stop worrying about me already, I’m going to hurt you.”
I said “Yeah, you are. All of our kids do. We do this on purpose, and that’s because every kid deserves someone that hurts when they hurt, and still doesn’t leave.”
She did not like that answer.
T, on the other hand, we’re finally getting through to. After we talked with A2, I went up to talk to T. I asked him if he knew we loved him, because I wanted to make sure that he knows we love him even though he does dumb things. He thought I was crazy for asking.
He said “I know you love me! You put all this work into keeping track of me, and getting ahold of my worker for visits, and making this birthday party for me every year. Jeez, you guys drove four hours in the snow and ice to come visit me when I was in that residential hospital. I know you love me.”
T breaks my heart in an entirely different way, but what I told A2 holds true. Every kid deserves someone who’s heart will break for them.
They are still really stupid though. I love them so much.